In times gone by, the ‘proposee’ would propose with the engagement ring already selected. Down on one knee, proffering a box and promising eternal commitment – that was just how it was done.
The modern trend doesn’t quite go in the same way. Though many engagements do still happen in the same way, the more up-to-date man or woman prefers to have a say in the ring that she will be wearing for the rest of her life. More and more people are opting to do the big proposal with a cheap, throwaway ring, which is replaced on consultation between both prospective bride and groom in the weeks to follow.
In some ways, this is wonderful, with no risk of the bride/groom-to-be having to risk upsetting her intended by rejecting a ring they just can’t see themselves wearing. In others, it does present a whole new problem to consider; we are now having to figure out what we want for their engagement ring, when before the matter was taken out of our hands and right onto our fingers.
Figuring out what you want as an engagement ring is trickier than it sounds. This isn’t some piece of costume jewellery that you can change when the fashions do; you’re going to be wearing it for the rest of your life.
In doing so, you might suddenly discover that your fingers are surprisingly problematic as you try to find the right style. You might go into a store to begin the experimentation process, but with your heart set on something before you begin. Then you sit down and realise that the platinum, square-cut diamond you envisioned just doesn’t seem to suit you; but the narrow, multi-stone antique engagement rings look perfect. If you want to get an idea before you begin, here are some essentials to choosing the right ring for your fingers.
If you have slender, thin, long hands, there are some general rules (although everyone is different of course!)…
Rule 1: No Big Stones
You might think you want a diamond the size of a small iceberg, but it just doesn’t look right on your fingers. Big stones have a tendency to overwhelm the overall appearance of the hand. So if your fingers are thin or particularly long, then you’re going to want to opt for smaller stones instead.
Rule 2: Opt For A Slender Band
A thick band can quickly overwhelm your fingers in much the same way that a big stone can. The more slender your fingers, the more slender the band should be.
On the flip side, if you have wide or short fingers, you need to remember…
Rule 1: Bigger Stones Are A Necessity
Your finger will look wider if you have a very small stone, which exposes a lot of skin on either side of the gem. Choosing a chunkier style – potentially with multiple jewels to cover more of the band – will be far more flattering.
Rule 2: Darker Metals
For wider, shorter fingers, you’re best choosing a darker metal such as rose or yellow golds. Silver-coloured metals – including the ever-popular platinum – can reflect the light, causing your fingers to look wider than they actually are.
So you’ve got the right person and now you’ve got the right ring – you’re all set to begin planning your big day!